Sleep coaching: what I wished I'd known - Part 2

So I'm on the fence about whether I should continue with the coaching or abandon it all together. Or find an alternative way of coaching that works for us.

Yesterday I was quite devastated that perhaps I'd crushed my child's spirit and/or sense of security and trust by sleep coaching him. That's what the articles I read suggested.

I talked to his dad about some of the blogs and other research I'd come across and he reckoned the people who were completely against sleep coaching (as referenced in my previous blog) were probably the same people who let their kids go wild without any boundaries.
Rico thinks Luke should have boundaries and sleep coaching is a boundary that needs to be created for him.

So yesterday I monitored my son.
I let him play alone and I continued with the coaching.
He's got the sleep right - he gets sleepy - I put him down and he sleeps.

We're still working through him playing on his own and not constantly wanting to be carried by me.
I don't leave him to play in any room alone - he plays in my full view.

So I'll do some more research today - but more importantly I'll keep watching Luke and how he's taking all this in.

At the end of the day I do want Luke to have boundaries but not at the cost of destroying his trust in me or his dad.
I want him to know that when he's unhappy or uncomfortable and needs me I will be there for him. Always.
But I will not feed into behaviour that could cost my son in the long run because I couldn't stand my ground and do what was best for him in his formative years.
I have to do what's best for Luke the child and Luke the man, now, even if it means being unpopular and losing my status as super mom in his eyes.

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